A close friend of mine was raped after a peeping tom broke into her home. He claimed that he couldn't help himself because she was walking around IN HER OWN FUCKING HOUSE in her underwear and a tanktop and it provoked him. I have acquaintances that agree and say "well maybe she should've been wearing more clothes" again, in her own fucking house. What is the most eloquent way to tell them how fucking stupid and wrong they are for thinking she was "asking for it"?
I would tell those people that they sure sound like they think rape is an acceptable thing to enact upon a woman whose behavior you don’t approve of, and ask them why they’re so “pro-rape”. They’ll try to defend themselves and make excuses and say they aren’t but they’ll always end with “…but” and that’s where you cut them off and tell them “If you say I’m against rape, BUT…”, you aren’t actually against rape. And then you avoid the fuck out of those people because making excuses for a rapist is a major red flag.
i actually constantly worry about this because i rarely wear clothes in my own home. like, i know a rapist probably isn’t going to randomly jump through my window but the thought that i would be blamed for being raped for not wearing clothes in my own damn home scares the shit out of me :/